As human beings, we hold on to things that matter to us. But not all things that matter to us, are good for us. Some things, no matter how much you like them, should not be with you anymore.
Some things can be like poison – we are addicted to them, but they are harmful. We cannot imagine being without the poison, because we think it’s all we have. Eventually the pain becomes bittersweet. Then the pain makes us hollow – so hollow, that we lose the passion for living.
Remember you deserve better. If you have done something wrong, learn to apologize. If you have said “Sorry” with all your heart, the ball has transferred from your court to the one you may have hurt. It is up to the person to choose to forgive you, or not. You were humble enough to acknowledge your mistake. Move on, now. You did what you had to.
Do not hold on to graves. Graves may be in forms of broken or unfulfilled dreams. They are dear to your heart, but they are robbing you of your peace of mind. All you can think about is what you have lost, or what you do not have, and all you can do is blame yourself for not having it.
There are 2 common approaches to unfortunate events. Some people will not hesitate to blame the next person, while some have the habit of always blaming themselves. Sometimes, we fall into the latter category.
That is why we must not hesitate to apologize. Once you have apologized with all your heart, show a little bit of compassion to yourself. Stop beating yourself up. It is a reality that not all things end well, and some things are always beyond our control.
There are some faults which are very difficult to forgive. The least you can do if you are not forgiven is to learn from the mistake and never repeat it again.
You deserve your share of joy. Rise above yourself, and don’t fall into too much guilt. Guilt should be enough to prod you to say “Sorry” when you are indeed wrong, but it shouldn’t become a driving force that makes your life miserable.
Learn to say, “Enough, is enough.”
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV
“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” – Isaiah 43:18-19
“A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.” – Proverbs 29:11
“Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.” – Proverbs 4:25-27
“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” – James 4:7
“Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper,but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” – Proverbs 28:13
It seems a stupid question; to hope or not to hope? The obvious answer is, “to hope.” Because hope is what brings peace during times of tribulation. Hope is what makes it possible to be patient for what we do not see. But what about when hope is lost? The fall from hope is so sorrowful, so painful, that surely it would have been easier not to hope at all. To hope puts you at the risk of losing hope. So I ask it again, to hope or not to hope?
Learning to Re-Love Yourself 